• My Journey đź’ś

    The One Who Stayed

    When I look at this picture, I don’t just see two women smiling.

    I see two little girls who survived something neither of us fully understood at the time.

    What makes it harder to explain is this:

    We didn’t know he was hurting both of us.

    Not really.

    We each thought we were the strong one.

    We each thought we were the protector.

    We each thought, “If I just hold it together, she’ll be okay.”

    There’s something heartbreakingly beautiful about that.

    Two children trying to carry weight that was never theirs.

    I remember moments when I would look at her and think,

    “I’ll take it. I can handle it. Just don’t let it touch her.”

    And I know now she was thinking the same thing about me.

    We didn’t talk about it then.

    We didn’t have language for it.

    We didn’t even fully understand what was happening.

    But we felt it.

    The tension.

    The silence.

    The unspoken knowing.

    We grew up believing we were shielding each other.

    And maybe, in some small ways, we were.

    Not because we could stop it.

    But because we never let the other feel completely alone.

    There’s a kind of survival that doesn’t look loud.

    It looks like passing glances across a room.

    It looks like sleeping in the same bed because the dark felt heavier that night.

    It looks like, “I’m fine,” when you’re not because you don’t want her to worry.

    We were children trying to be armor for each other.

    Now, when I see this photo, I don’t just see adulthood.

    I see proof that we made it.

    Not untouched.

    Not unchanged.

    But still here.

    Still choosing each other.

    Still standing side by side. Only now, we know the truth.

    We don’t have to protect each other from it anymore.

    We get to heal together instead.

  • My Journey đź’ś

    The Women I Needed When I Was Little.

    When I look at this picture, I don’t just see me.

    I see the little girl I used to be.

    The one who didn’t understand what was happening.

    The one who learned to be quiet.

    The one who thought survival meant shrinking.

    The one who counted breaths just to get through moments no child should have to endure.

    When I look at this version of myself now, leaning against a tree, standing in the light I don’t feel fearless.

    I feel protective.

    Not just of my future.

    Not just of the life I’m building.

    But of her.

    The eight-year-old who didn’t have anyone step in.

    The teenager who was told she was “too sensitive.”

    The young woman who confused chaos with love because it was familiar.

    I don’t hate the version of me who tolerated too much.

    She was surviving.

    But I am not her anymore.

    I am the woman who would stand between her and anything that tried to harm her.

    I am the voice that says, “No.”

    I am the boundary.

    I am the exit.

    I am the safety.

    Healing isn’t becoming emotionless.

    Healing is feeling everything and choosing differently anyway.

    I still have nightmares.

    I still get triggered.

    I still shake sometimes.

    But now when I feel fear, I don’t abandon myself.

    I hold her.

    I tell her:

    “You’re safe now.”

    “I’ve got you.”

    “No one is allowed to hurt you anymore.”

    There is something sacred about realizing you have grown into the very person you once prayed would show up.

    I am not the little girl waiting to be saved.

    I am the woman who saves her.

    And I will never let someone treat her the way I once allowed.

    Not again.

    -Samantha ❤️