• My Journey đź’ś

    I Am Still Here. Surviving the Ones Who Were Supposed to Love Me

    April 2, 2026 - By 

    There’s a specific kind of damage that comes from being hurt by the people who were supposed to love you.

    Not strangers.

    Not the world.

    But the ones closest to you.

    The ones who were supposed to be safe.

    Abuse doesn’t always look like what people expect. It’s not always loud, obvious, or easy to explain. Sometimes it’s layered in lies. Sometimes it’s hidden in manipulation. Sometimes it’s disguised as “love” so convincingly that you don’t even realize what’s happening until it’s already shaped you.

    It’s being told one thing and shown another.

    It’s being made to feel like you’re the problem.

    It’s being hurt, then comforted by the same hands that caused the pain.

    It’s confusion becoming your normal.

    And when that happens young, when your brain is still learning what love is, what safety is, what you are. It doesn’t just hurt in the moment.

    It builds you around it.

    Your mind adapts in ways you didn’t choose.

    You learn to read people carefully. Too carefully.

    You learn to stay quiet to avoid conflict.

    You learn to take blame just to keep the peace.

    You learn that love can come with fear and that becomes something you carry.

    You don’t grow up feeling safe.

    You grow up feeling prepared.

    Prepared for disappointment.

    Prepared for lies.

    Prepared for pain.

    And the hardest part?

    You still crave the very people who hurt you.

    Because they were your “home,” even when that home didn’t feel safe.

    That kind of contradiction does something deep to a person. It splits you in ways that are hard to explain. Part of you wants to run. Part of you wants to stay. Part of you knows the truth. Part of you still hopes for a different ending.

    That’s what manipulation does.

    That’s what repeated hurt does.

    It doesn’t just break your trust in others—it makes you question yourself.

    Your thoughts.

    Your feelings.

    Your reality.

    But here’s the truth that took me a long time to understand:

    Just because something shaped you… doesn’t mean it gets to define you.

    Yes, what happened changed me.

    It affected my mind.

    It affected my body.

    It affected the way I see love, trust, and even myself.

    I carry things I didn’t ask for. Reactions I didn’t choose. Wounds that didn’t come from me.

    But I’m still here.

    After everything

    the lies,

    the manipulation,

    the confusion,

    the pain

    I am still here.

    Still breathing.

    Still learning.

    Still trying.

    Still choosing to wake up and face another day.

    And not just any day. A day I want to live.

    That matters more than anything they did to me.

    Because survival isn’t just about making it through.

    It’s about deciding, at some point, that you deserve more than just surviving.

    That you deserve peace.

    You deserve honesty.

    You deserve a life that doesn’t feel like something you have to endure.

    And maybe I wasn’t given that in the beginning.

    But I’m building it now.

    Piece by piece.

    Day by day.

    Choice by choice.

    I am not what they did to me.

    I am what I chose to become after.

    The ones that make life worth it đź’™
  • My Journey đź’ś

    The One Who Stayed

    February 26, 2026 - By 

    When I look at this picture, I don’t just see two women smiling.

    I see two little girls who survived something neither of us fully understood at the time.

    What makes it harder to explain is this:

    We didn’t know he was hurting both of us.

    Not really.

    We each thought we were the strong one.

    We each thought we were the protector.

    We each thought, “If I just hold it together, she’ll be okay.”

    There’s something heartbreakingly beautiful about that.

    Two children trying to carry weight that was never theirs.

    I remember moments when I would look at her and think,

    “I’ll take it. I can handle it. Just don’t let it touch her.”

    And I know now she was thinking the same thing about me.

    We didn’t talk about it then.

    We didn’t have language for it.

    We didn’t even fully understand what was happening.

    But we felt it.

    The tension.

    The silence.

    The unspoken knowing.

    We grew up believing we were shielding each other.

    And maybe, in some small ways, we were.

    Not because we could stop it.

    But because we never let the other feel completely alone.

    There’s a kind of survival that doesn’t look loud.

    It looks like passing glances across a room.

    It looks like sleeping in the same bed because the dark felt heavier that night.

    It looks like, “I’m fine,” when you’re not because you don’t want her to worry.

    We were children trying to be armor for each other.

    Now, when I see this photo, I don’t just see adulthood.

    I see proof that we made it.

    Not untouched.

    Not unchanged.

    But still here.

    Still choosing each other.

    Still standing side by side. Only now, we know the truth.

    We don’t have to protect each other from it anymore.

    We get to heal together instead.